tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post2471295628062525075..comments2011-09-16T11:50:24.298-04:00Comments on Raising Solomon's Daughters: Get A DateTamara Kaufmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15273206246473555547noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post-14668788708279086662011-05-17T15:38:25.029-04:002011-05-17T15:38:25.029-04:00Great comments, Allison and Janelle. Tamara, thank...Great comments, Allison and Janelle. Tamara, thanks for writing. So encouraging! Just what I needed today.EChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17546995046436445077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post-19504242048090411352011-05-11T14:29:07.709-04:002011-05-11T14:29:07.709-04:00We try to make sure our kids know that our marriag...We try to make sure our kids know that our marriage relationship comes first, however it's easier said than done when you are dealing with the clamoring needs of young kids. I liked your statement"You teach your children to wait a moment until your husband finishes his story he was telling you even though it is so much easier to ask your husband to wait (he does have more patience)." We try to have our kids come up and squeeze our hand if they want to tell us something, but we're in the middle of a conversation. We give them a squeeze back to let them know we're aware of them, and then they are supposed to wait until we're at a break in the conversation. It's a work in progress, but hopefully they'll see that our conversation and relationship as husband and wife is a priority. Again, we're still working on it!! <br />I also liked your points about teaching our kids that relationships take time and effort and aren't the "Hollywood myth" of emotional love and true love. Thanks for providing food for thought! A good reminder for me to keep our marriage a priority even though it can be so easy do otherwise. <br />AllisonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post-10316474709198677112011-05-11T14:01:10.389-04:002011-05-11T14:01:10.389-04:00Thank you so much for sharing, Janelle! My hope i...Thank you so much for sharing, Janelle! My hope is that we can encourage each other to give our marriages the time and attention they deserve. :) <br />I know I need to work on letting my husband finish telling me something when my kids interrupt. I need to work harder to make the kids wait until daddy is done talking before I address their concerns.Tamara Kaufmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15273206246473555547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post-88581860034476632852011-05-11T13:14:56.145-04:002011-05-11T13:14:56.145-04:00I am becoming more aware of what my daughters see ...I am becoming more aware of what my daughters see in my relationship with my husband as they get older. One particular habit I have is pushing away my husband from a hug after a few moments because I am always in the "middle of something". On the other hand, I often go out of my way to snuggle my four year old daughter until we can't snuggle any more. Why do I do this? Why do I run to my daughter for this need and not my husband? I am slowly trying to change this imbalance and the perception that my daughters might have. I am now committing to my husband's hugs and trying to put them above whatever I need to accomplish. What seems to be working for me is waiting until he lets go first. I hope that in doing this I am sending a strong message to my husband and my daughters about the importance of marriage. Besides God, it comes first above all else.Janellenoreply@blogger.com