tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post3007165489485853957..comments2011-09-16T11:50:24.298-04:00Comments on Raising Solomon's Daughters: Wooing WisdomTamara Kaufmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15273206246473555547noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post-6851922072363194642011-02-23T18:49:49.081-05:002011-02-23T18:49:49.081-05:00Cecile, I absolute adore you for commenting (and o...Cecile, I absolute adore you for commenting (and other reasons too)!<br /><br />I do think that a dad's relationship with his daughter is very important in establishing her expectations of men and what they will require of her. Do our daughters feel loved, cherished, and protected by their dad or do they feel ignored, misunderstood, or like they are “too much to handle”? But this pursuit of their hearts definitely carries over into a mother-daughter relationship too! <br /><br />I don’t know that I would use the term “equally shared” here, but I would certainly say that it is just as important. As a (mostly) stay-at-home-mom I spend more time with my daughters than my husband does. On a daily basis, I am the one who is hammering home the value of my daughters’ unique spirit to them. I can make them feel like they are chores I would rather not get to. I can make them feel like they need to constantly be striving to be better, in any number of ways, in order to please me. I can also make them feel safe; to cry, to fail, to be excited, to be passionate about something. <br /><br />I hope my daughters feel adored and unique and special. I hope my daughters walk away knowing that if they needed me I would be there, but confident enough to try it on their own first (cuz, momma’s doing the dishes and that makes her grumpy anyway). <br />As for ways to pursue their hearts…hmmm, good idea for a later blog post. :)Tamara Kaufmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15273206246473555547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3297564986777446476.post-5622193291057154672011-02-23T00:26:39.702-05:002011-02-23T00:26:39.702-05:00I've thought about this. How specifically does...I've thought about this. How specifically does one pursue her heart? Is this more for dads than moms or equally shared by both? So much to learn in this area.Cbibawyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02498757200443804882noreply@blogger.com